Just as you might check a child’s temperature when they seem unwell, parents need to regularly check their child’s “emotional thermometer” to gauge their risk of burnout. A clinical psychologist explains how to become more attuned to your child’s emotional state to catch signs of overheating before they become a major issue.
Tuning in starts with observation. Clinical psychologist Meghna Kanwat provides the key symptoms to watch for: “fatigue, cynicism, dropping grades, and withdrawal.” Think of these as the numbers on your emotional thermometer. A rise in any of these areas indicates that stress levels are increasing.
To get an accurate reading, you need to go beyond surface-level interactions. This requires creating moments for genuine connection. Kanwat highlights the importance of “open communication” and “emotional responsiveness.” This could be a daily check-in during dinner or a walk where you actively listen to their highs and lows.
Empathy is your most accurate tool. When your child expresses frustration or sadness, “validating the child’s experience” is crucial, says Kanwat. Saying “That sounds really tough” shows you are listening and helps them feel safe to share more. This gives you a clearer reading of their internal state.
By regularly using this “emotional thermometer,” parents can move from a reactive to a proactive approach. You can spot when your child is starting to feel overwhelmed and make adjustments—like easing their schedule or offering extra support—before they reach the boiling point of full-blown burnout.
